“Girls get a lot of mixed messages—they are told, ‘Girl Power!’ and what does that mean? It means you wear a T-shirt that says, ‘Girl Power!’ but you call each other bitches. You make fun of a girl for being a virgin and you make fun of a girl for having sex. There’s no right place to be.”—Tina Fey (via sexisnottheenemy)
“Of course, the irony of this feminisation of sweet foods is that, although women are supposed to enjoy creating these elaborate, sugary confections, actually eating them is something of a taboo. The current ideal of female beauty is thin above all else, and we are constantly reminded of the pressure to meet this standard, but it isn’t enough to just to diet in order to be thin. Regardless of her weight, a woman is also expected to diet so that she is not seen to be overeating. We’re taught from an early age that certain foods, like chocolate or chips, are “naughty”, so many women don’t want to be seen eating these foods in case they are judged as greedy; healthier foods are seen as symbols of virtue, but even those can’t be eaten in too large a quantity. Food, like anything else which hints that a woman is in possession of a flesh-and-blood human body, has to be hidden from public view.”—Have Your Cake and Eat It: A feminist perspective on baking | Alyson Macdonald (via curvesahead)
alright, let's just get something straight here. if you think rape is something to joke about, if you think suicide is something to joke about, if you think the words "gay" and "retarded" are okay to use as insults, then you can kindly remove yourself from my life.
“Even sticking to the higher plane of love, is it so very obvious that you can’t love more than one person? We seem to manage it with parental love (parents are reproached if they don’t at least pretend to love all their children equally), love of books, of food, of wine (love of Chateau Margaux does not preclude love of a fine Hock, and we don’t feel unfaithful to the red when we dally with the white), love of composers, poets, holiday beaches, friends … why is erotic love the one exception that everybody instantly acknowledges without even thinking about it? Why can a woman not love two men at the same time, in their different ways? And why should the two – or their wives — begrudge her this?”—Richard Dawkins (via thehumorlessfeminist)
“This is applicable to everyone: you want to grow out your bush and never shave for the rest of your life? That’s okay. You want to wax or sugar it all off so you’re as smooth as silk down there? That’s okay. You want to trim it, leave a strip, round it out, keep it low, thin it out, braid it, shave just your balls, shave just your pussy lips, keep it business in the front and party in the back? That’s okay too. Don’t let anyone tell you different. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re not feminine enough, or sexy enough if you choose to keep your bush. And don’t let anyone tell you you’re not radical enough, or queer enough if you choose to make it bare.”—Katie West (via sexisnottheenemy)
[TRIGGER WARNING: mention of fat hatred] As far as I’m concerned, every single person – regardless of intention – who encourages thinness under the guise of encouraging health is part of a culture of hate, bullying and intimidation wherein a complete stranger feels comfortable saying that he/she wants to punch someone in the stomach and watch them die because they are fat. Are you telling people that they have to lose weight to be healthy (or attractive, or deserving of respect)? Do you participate in negative body talk about other people? Do make judgments about the health, abilities, or intelligence of people based on their size? Then I’m talking to directly to you.
This is not the best we can do. Together we can create a society that values health. Actual health. That focuses on giving people the best options for health: affordable, accessible healthy food; affordable movement options that people can enjoy without the threat of stigma; an opportunity to love and appreciate our bodies while we decide what we want to do with them, an awareness that health comes in a variety of body shapes and sizes, and a world that has respect for our choices when it comes to our own health. If you believe that health and thinness are the same thing then you are free to pursue a thin body but there is no reason for you not to respect someone else’s belief in Health at Every Size and there is no reason to create a culture of hate against people because they don’t think the same thing that you do.
There doesn’t seem to be a lot of room, in body image conversations, for people who may feel conflicted about their bodies, for people who reject a lot of the ‘affirmations’ promoted, for people who may not fit into the categories some participants in these conversations assume apply to everyone. Are there exceptions to these rules? Conversations where people are thinking about issues like disability and the rejection of beauty? Yes, there absolutely are, but they are exceptions, not the norm, and that is a trend I would like to reverse.
This is what we talk about when we talk about working towards the neutral place; creating a space where bodies and identities are neutral, so there is room for everyone, room for all relationships between people and their bodies, room for people at all levels of exploring their identities and their bodies.