never was a cornflake girl: Archive

rebeccatracha:

soydulcedeleche:

sexual harrassment, street harrassment, cat-calling, it all depends on location, region, culture. it can be nonexistant, real subtle going all the way to unlivable.

in nyc, dudes are fresh as fuck. soon as you step on the sidewalk you will get some “c’mere, baby” or whistle like youre a fucking…

Having spent the last year as a gringuita in Central America let me tell you I feel you on this one…I usually just try to completely ignore it, but I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been *THIS CLOSE* to slapping a guy in the face. I’ve just about seen it all—hissing, whistling, name-calling, dirty-talking, grabbing, even (just last week, on my last night in Honduras) an uncomfortably determined effort by a bus driver to get me to go to his hotel with him.

I am white, so I can’t comment on who gets it worse—but what I’m saying is there’s no reason a girl—ANY girl, in ANY part of the world—should have to feel scared or even uncomfortable in her own female skin while walking down the street. Our bodies are beautiful things and allow us to do a lot of amazing things, and are not just something for other people—men or women—to gaze upon, play with, or make assumptions about. As stated on the iHollaback.org campaign website, we have:

the right to define [our] own [selves] instead of being defined by some creep’s point of view. Because none of us are as simple as a list of physical attributes. We have a right to be who we are, not who we are told to be. We have a right to define ourselves on our own terms when we walk out the door, whatever that means that day. That hour. That minute.

This response…kind of annoys me. I think because I gave a presentation once in a Spanish class on tourist destinations, colonization, and and how Latinas and other women of color get treated as tourist attractions…

And, ya know, I talked about colorism and how darker, Blacker women are seen as less worthy of respect and protection.

And this one blonde white girl got angry and said sexism didn’t operate differently depending on color because she went to the DR and got harassed.

She just completely erased everything about millions of people’s experiences because it didn’t fit her white POV.

Soy Dulce de Leche gave a nuanced, important-as-hell critique of colorism, racism, immigration, colonization and more… but then this other woman just goes and ignores ALL of that with some platitudes about “ANY girl in ANY part of the world.” After simply stating, “I am white, so I can’t comment on who gets it worse—” When, actually you COULD comment! You could believe Dulce and affirm her reality and say, “That shit is FUCKED UP I haven’t experienced that, but damn!” You could offer support and ask more questions and engage her full narrative!

Idk. This just struck a nerve for me…